I didn’t know I’d been narcissistically abused.
Sure, I recognized I’d been gaslit and survived endless criticisms. My ex had to have the final word and would lecture me on how to do the most mundane things. He said I couldn’t even hang the freshly washed clothes right.
Confused, hurt, and newly divorced, I started writing to make sense of what I’d survived.
It wasn’t until I self-published Love You More, the story of that toxic marriage, that I first heard the words “narcissistic abuse.” There, on social media, other victims described what I’d experienced—the walking on eggshells, carefully testing my partner’s mood before speaking, and the subtle verbal jabs that left me self-conscious and insecure. I wasn’t the only one who had endured my ex’s volatile mood swings, threats and intimidations, and serial cheating.
It was then that I realized I wasn’t alone.
And if you’re going through something similar, neither are you.
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-Kerry
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More about Kerry
Kerry Kerr McAvoy, PhD, an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues, has been featured on Mamamia, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. On TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube, she educates about abuse dynamics and offers advice on trauma-related issues.
Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse. She’s recently published First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist: A Guide to Resolving Cognitive Dissonance and Surviving to Thriving: A Six-Step Blueprint to Narcissistic Abuse Healing & Recovery, both designed to help abuse victims find greater clarity and direction.
